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The Dichotomy of Control— A Street Smart Survival Tactic

The Dichotomy of Control: A Street Smart Survival Tactic

The dichotomy of control. I couldn’t control poverty in my neighborhood, but I could control studying hard to maximize my scholarship chances. I couldn’t stop school bullying altogether, but I could control not letting it make me cruel or bitter.

Nov 03, 2023
Waiting until marriage—why I'm still a virgin

Waiting until marriage—why I’m still a virgin

“I have no qualms about telling people that I’m a virgin and waiting until marriage. I am not embarrassed by that at all. There’s a stereotype in people’s minds when they think of someone who is a virgin and I actually want to shatter the stereotype.”

Dating and relationships
Oct 26, 2023
Living in the hood

Living in the hood

These posts are a collection of my experiences growing up in the ghetto. You can find out what it’s like to live in the hood without living in the hood.

Life lessons
Aug 20, 2023
How to get a boyfriend— From a guy’s perspective

How to get a boyfriend: From a guy’s perspective

Practical tips for woman to improve your personality, enhance your attractiveness, and find the perfect boyfriend for you.

Dating and relationships
Mar 30, 2023
Monk Mode Review— How I changed my life with this intense productivity hack

Monk Mode Review: How I changed my life with this intense productivity hack

How I used Monk Mode to improve my boxing, get sober, and create major change in my life.

Change your perspective
Mar 23, 2023
7 things that happen when you have a baby

7 things that happen when you have a baby

A father’s perspective on what happens when you get a baby.

Change your perspective
Mar 16, 2023
Dad to Dad - How to prepare for fatherhood

Dad to Dad - How to prepare for fatherhood

Principles to prepare for fatherhood that’ll make you unstoppable in all areas of life plus a quick baby essentials checklist.

Change your perspective
Feb 16, 2023
How to build resilience (a stoic perspective)

How to build resilience (a stoic perspective)

Discover how to build resilience in life by asking yourself specific questions on a daily basis, and following the works of these philosophers.

Change your perspective
Jan 28, 2023
Here’s how to mature as a man

Here’s how to mature as a man

If I had a time machine, here’s what I’d tell my younger on how to mature as a man.

Longevity health and performance
Jan 18, 2023
How to attract a man, from a man’s perspective

How to attract a man, from a man’s perspective

This is how to really attract a high-value man, from a man’s perspective.

Dating and relationships
Jan 15, 2023
Here’s what happens when you get a girlfriend

Here’s what happens when you get a girlfriend

Wondering about your first girlfriend? Here’s what happens when you get a girlfriend.

Dating and relationships
Dec 15, 2022
Signs a girl likes you (and signs she doesn’t)

Signs a girl likes you (and signs she doesn’t)

Want to know if you’re more than friends? Here are the signs a girl likes you romantically

Dating and relationships
Dec 08, 2022
5 lessons from getting punched in the face

5 lessons from getting punched in the face

Getting punched in the face isn’t that bad. In fact, it can be the source of some valuable lessons. Here are five things you can learn from the experience.

Living in the hood
Oct 07, 2022
20 signs that you grew up in the hood

20 signs that you grew up in the hood

Here are 20 signs that you grew up in the hood. But if you grew up in the hood, you don’t really need these to know.

Living in the hood
Aug 26, 2022
Business and life lessons from The Notorious B.I.G. 10 crack commandments

Business and life lessons from The Notorious B.I.G. 10 crack commandments

The Ten Crackcommandments is an education in the real, raw, viciousness of human nature. This article takes lessons from the song to apply to your entire life.

Living in the hood
Jun 25, 2022
Problems growing up with an absent father(and how to fix them)

Problems growing up with an absent father(and how to fix them)

Fatherless homes lack examples for boys to follow into becoming men. This article provides solutions for the children of absent fathers.

Living in the hood
Jun 06, 2022
How to be a man— The 9 qualities of masculinity

How to be a man: The 9 qualities of masculinity

All boys must develop these nine qualities of a masculine man to achieve their greatest potential. They are the passage into manhood.

Self improvement for men
Jun 05, 2022
A better way to deal with annoying parents

A better way to deal with annoying parents

There’s no need to argue, parents just don’t understand. Discover how to cope with annoying parents with compassion and maintain your sanity.

Building family relationships
Jun 01, 2022
How to seduce a woman, the ethical way

How to seduce a woman, the ethical way

If you’re tired of reading stuff written by sleazy pick-up artists, this is an ethical guide with no tricks or manipulation.

Dating and relationships
Apr 28, 2022
How to be an adult— 6 major markers of adulthood

How to be an adult: 6 major markers of adulthood

If you stop doing just these 6 things, you’ll be an adult by default. Learn which things to not do if you want to be taken seriously as a grown-up.

Change your perspective
Apr 10, 2022
Strategies to be patient in a relationship

Strategies to be patient in a relationship

If you lose your cool, you can ruin your relationship. Win in love, overcome differences, and master life by learning how to be patient in a relationship.

Dating and relationships
Apr 05, 2022
How to cope with losing someone you love

How to cope with losing someone you love

Losing someone you love can leave you feeling lost. Here’s what to do when your grief and sorrow make getting on with your life seem impossible.

Building family relationships
Mar 08, 2022
The 7 benefits of having a rough childhood

The 7 benefits of having a rough childhood

This is for the kids growing up in broken homes, dangerous neighborhoods, and who are bullied at school. You have an advantage that can’t be taught or beat.

Living in the hood
Feb 09, 2022
7 ways to be more street smart

7 ways to be more street smart

You don’t have to be in the streets to be street smart, but you’ll get taken advantage of if you aren’t. Read this to learn how to be street smarter.

Living in the hood
Feb 04, 2022
9 ways to be a high-value woman to meet a high-value man

9 ways to be a high-value woman to meet a high-value man

Here are some specific steps to follow to become a high-value woman that is able to meet and be with a high-value man.

Dating and relationships
Feb 02, 2022
7 reasons it’s hard to make friends (+ tips that work)

7 reasons it’s hard to make friends (+ tips that work)

Discover why it’s so hard to make friends and practical ways to expand your social circle. A must-read for people having trouble connecting with others.

How to make friends
Feb 01, 2022
How to tell a girl you like her (hint— you don’t)

How to tell a girl you like her (hint: you don’t)

Feeling butterflies in your belly for a special girl? Here’s what to do before pouring out your heart

Dating and relationships
Jan 25, 2022
How to be a better boyfriend

How to be a better boyfriend

What always works isn’t always what’s obvious. This article gives an unconventional look at how to be a good boyfriend.

Dating and relationships
Jan 18, 2022
How to stand up for yourself in a relationship

How to stand up for yourself in a relationship

If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything, even in your romantic relationships. Here’s how to stand up for yourself in a relationship.

Dating and relationships
Dec 15, 2021
How often do couples fight?

How often do couples fight?

All couples fight, but how much fighting is considered healthy? Find out here according to experts. Also, find out how to fight less if you fight too much.

Dating and relationships
Dec 08, 2021
Ed Latimore's “coffee so black” jokes

Ed Latimore’s “coffee so black” jokes

This collection of coffee jokes will leave you laughing and you might learn something new. Not for the politically correct or overly sensitive.

Living in the hood
Dec 05, 2021
How to take the lead in a relationship

How to take the lead in a relationship

Whether you’re single or have been married for years, here’s how to be a leader in your relationship.

Dating and relationships
Nov 17, 2021
How to stand up for yourself— Practical solutions that work

How to stand up for yourself: Practical solutions that work

Don’t be a pushover. Follow these practical steps to standing up for yourself and take back control of your life.

How to make friends
Nov 10, 2021
How to develop the courage to live for yourself

How to develop the courage to live for yourself

Develop the courage to prioritize yourself, stop people-pleasing, and live a life you love. Warning: people may hate you for choosing to love yourself.

How to control your emotions
Nov 04, 2021
What to do when someone hates you for no reason

What to do when someone hates you for no reason

Just because people don’t like you, doesn’t mean you have to dislike yourself. Here’s what to if you have haters.

How to make friends
Oct 20, 2021
Hobbies to make friends (and what to do once you're there)

Hobbies to make friends (and what to do once you’re there)

How to stop being lonely and use hobbies to make new friends. Using hobbies and interests is—by far—the best way to meet new people.

How to make friends
Oct 07, 2021
Why do I keep relapsing? (how to stop for good)

Why do I keep relapsing? (how to stop for good)

Overcoming an addiction can be hard. But it doesn’t have to be if you implement these four strategies for avoiding relapses.

Longevity health and performance
Oct 05, 2021
How to get closer to a friend

How to get closer to a friend

Tired of surface-level relationships? Want to be closer to the friends you have? This article shows you how to be closer with friends & loved ones

How to make friends
Sep 30, 2021
How to not be shy around girls— 7 ways that work

How to not be shy around girls: 7 ways that work

Get nervous and twitchy around women? You’re not alone. In this article, I’ll show you how to stop being shy around girls and be an interesting guy.

Dating and relationships
Sep 23, 2021
Do women care about money? 7 reasons the answer is yes

Do women care about money? 7 reasons the answer is yes

Are all women gold-diggers? Not exactly, but they don’t want to date broke men. Here’s why money is so important to the opposite sex

Dating and relationships
Sep 17, 2021
How to overcome fear of rejection and meet women

How to overcome fear of rejection and meet women

Worried about getting rejected when you talk to girls? Interested in meeting women but not sure where to start? Start here.

Dating and relationships
Sep 08, 2021
How to be the most interesting man in any room

How to be the most interesting man in any room

Discover actionable steps you can take to be more interesting, expand your mind, and tap into a life you can get excited about

How to make friends
Sep 06, 2021
Personal magnetism— How to be more charismatic

Personal magnetism: How to be more charismatic

Personal magnetism is a superpower. Discover how to be more charismatic, attract more people, and captivate no matter where you are.

How to make friends
Aug 31, 2021
How to be likeable— 5 ways to increase your emotional intelligence

How to be likeable: 5 ways to increase your emotional intelligence

I teach you how to be likeable from my personal experience. Being a likable person is the ultimate form of social currency in personal, romantic, and business relationships.

How to make friends
Aug 27, 2021
Socially awkward? Here's how to get over it

Socially awkward? Here’s how to get over it

If you spend too much time in your lead, you won’t be able to live. Stop overthinking every conversation and learn how to not be socially awkward.

How to make friends
Aug 23, 2021
How to forgive your parents

How to forgive your parents

Your parents are only human. Your challenge is remembering that despite the mistakes they may have made, they did the best they could with you.

The power of forgiveness
Aug 09, 2021
7 hobbies to meet women (effective)

7 hobbies to meet women (effective)

To date successfully, you need hobbies that make you seem confident and interesting to women. Here’s my framework for picking hobbies to meet women.

Dating and relationships
Aug 09, 2021
The 4 unfakeable traits of a high value man

The 4 unfakeable traits of a high value man

A high-value man has hit a standard in these 4 areas. Otherwise, he’s not high-value. This article tells you the 4 unfakeable traits of a high-value man.

Self improvement for men
Aug 05, 2021
5 things I learned growing up in the projects

5 things I learned growing up in the projects

Growing up in the projects is rough. I managed to get out, but these lessons I learned in the ghetto will stay with me forever.

Living in the hood
May 26, 2021
The 3 biggest reasons why people complain

The 3 biggest reasons why people complain

The problem with complaining is that it makes you focus on the problem rather than the solution. Learn how to fix this fatal flaw.

How to control your emotions
Mar 10, 2021
How to stop hating someone and holding grudges

How to stop hating someone and holding grudges

When you hate someone, you’re drinking poison and expecting them to die. Learn how to stop hurting yourself with and get over your hate of others

The power of forgiveness
Mar 03, 2021
6 powerful reasons to bet on yourself

6 powerful reasons to bet on yourself

Betting on yourself is the fastest way to success. Now it’s time for you to learn how and why you need to do this as well.

Mental toughness
Feb 27, 2021
15 ways to finally get over someone you loved

15 ways to finally get over someone you loved

Personal experience, anecdotal evidence, and scientific experiments combine to teach you the best way to get over someone who’s broken your heart.

Dating and relationships
Feb 19, 2021
How to get your life together— 10 Practical steps to organize, improve, and transform your life

How to get your life together: 10 Practical steps to organize, improve, and transform your life

Learn how to get your life together with actionable tips and strategies to help you organize, improve, and transform your yourself.

Change your perspective
Jan 11, 2021
Life's not fair. How to deal with it.

Life’s not fair. How to deal with it.

Life is fair because it’s unfair to everyone. Learn how to take the unfair lemons in life and make lemonade. This is a skill that will change your life.

Living in the hood
Jan 10, 2021
Why people hate you (5 most common reasons)

Why people hate you (5 most common reasons)

Having haters sucks, but it’s part of life. In this article I not only tell you why you have haters, but what to do about them.

How to make friends
Jan 09, 2021
How to give tough love

How to give tough love

Giving tough love can be terrifying. But if you truly care about someone, you must be prepared to help them face the uncomfortable facts

Living in the hood
Dec 20, 2020
How to let go of the past— 6 steps to finally move on

How to let go of the past: 6 steps to finally move on

Being able to let go of the past was key to my sobriety and getting my life together. Learn how I released the past and made progress.

The power of forgiveness
Nov 21, 2020
Don't do what makes you happy. Do this instead

Don’t do what makes you happy. Do this instead

Most of us can’t do what we love for money. That means we need a different way to find happiness through work. Read this to learn how.

Change your perspective
Oct 29, 2020
5 lessons from working at a homeless shelter

5 lessons from working at a homeless shelter

I once worked at a men’s homeless shelter. Here are five powerful lessons I learned from homeless people.

Living in the hood
Jun 15, 2020
How to be chill in 5 steps

How to be chill in 5 steps

This article will teach the techniques I use to remain ”super chill” and calm even when things get crazy.

How to control your emotions
Jun 05, 2020
Is karma real? 3 life lessons from a troll

Is karma real? 3 life lessons from a troll

You never know who’s paying attention on social media. An internet troll learns that what goes around comes around and that karma is a bitch.

Living in the hood
May 20, 2020
6 signs of mental and emotional maturity

6 signs of mental and emotional maturity

How do you become more mature and improve your quality of life? Here are 6 major signs of mental and emotional maturity that you can start to follow.

Change your perspective
Apr 04, 2020
How to hustle like a crackhead

How to hustle like a crackhead

You don’t have to smoke crack to get the crackhead hustle, work ethic, and mindset. Read on to learn how.

Living in the hood
Feb 18, 2020
5 reasons you're broke— How to stop being poor

5 reasons you’re broke: How to stop being poor

Why was I broke? I was poor because of the problems on this list. If you don’t have enough money, learn the unsuspecting reasons why.

Living in the hood
Jan 28, 2020
Relationship and dating advice for men— 12 rules

Relationship and dating advice for men: 12 rules

Not every guy wants to be a lifelong playboy, so I’m here to teach men how to have a happy relationship.

Dating and relationships
Nov 17, 2019
Why am I so unhappy? (5 reasons and real solutions)

Why am I so unhappy? (5 reasons and real solutions)

Everyone wants to be happy. But so few people are. This post explores why you aren’t excited about your life and what to do about it.

How to control your emotions
Oct 16, 2019
8 ways to stop caring about what people think

8 ways to stop caring about what people think

I used to care what everyone else thought about me. Getting over the fear of judgment was one of the best things I ever did. Here’s how you can too.

How to control your emotions
Nov 27, 2017
9 lessons from living by crackheads & crack dealers

9 lessons from living by crackheads & crack dealers

I grew up in the projects and learned a lot about crackheads and crack dealers. Here are some little-known facts about them.

Living in the hood
Mar 06, 2017
How to change your life in 10 months— 10 steps

How to change your life in 10 months: 10 steps

I was once a broke alcoholic. Then I changed my life. Now I’m a sober top 1% earner. Here are the 10 things I did to change my life.

Change your perspective
Feb 21, 2017
6 reasons to be grateful

6 reasons to be grateful

Gratitude can make any situation better, but only if you understand it. Learn how and why to express gratitude.

How to control your emotions
Dec 07, 2016
Hard work beats talent

Hard work beats talent

Hard work will always beat talent. In this article, learn why and how to work harder than the competition.

Mental toughness
Oct 11, 2016
The 31 ways to be a better man

The 31 ways to be a better man

These are 30 lessons I’ve learned about becoming a better man. I’m not the best version, but I’ve Improved and this guide can help you too.

Self improvement for men
Sep 17, 2016
You can't force relationships to develop

You can’t force relationships to develop

Learn why you can’t force love. Impatient, insecure, or damaged people try to force a relationship to develop quickly.

Dating and relationships
Jun 30, 2016
How to get into a relationship

How to get into a relationship

If you can’t spot the red flags, you’re in big trouble. This article teaches men how to effectively vet women and successfully get into a relationship.

Dating and relationships
Apr 19, 2016
Lessons from the ghetto— willingness to fight

Lessons from the ghetto: willingness to fight

Fighting in the hood is always about more than just fighting. The following is an important lesson I learned from living and fighting in the hood.

Living in the hood
Dec 04, 2015
No one gives a shit about you

No one gives a shit about you

You ask yourself, “Why nobody gives a damn about me?” I have the answer. No one cares about you. It’s not personal. It’s just human nature.

Living in the hood
Oct 29, 2015