About Emotional Mastery

The 4 unfakeable traits of a high value man

A high-value man has hit a standard in these 4 areas. Otherwise, he’s not high-value. You either hit the metrics in all categories or you don’t. This article tells you the 4 unfakeable traits of a high value man.

 

Ed Latimore, author, blogger, and retired pro boxer
Ed Latimore Author, retired boxer, self-improvement enthusiast

There isn’t a guy alive who doesn’t want to know how to become a high-value man.

Forget about simplistic red pill tropes like “alpha” or “beta.”

They’re useful for categorizing general masculine behaviors, but they’re also a binary distinction. There’s no room in between to be anything in between. Also, there are different areas in a man’s life and in each of those areas he can be the alpha male or the beta male.

The problem with using alpha and beta to rank men

I’ve met guys who are high-powered, 7 figure earning alpha men in their career, but are meek, subservient beta males in their relationships.

I’ve known guys who are alpha males when it comes to hooking up with beautiful women, but they share a barely livable apartment with 4 guys, they sleep on a mattress on the floor, and can barely make rent.

Then there are fit-bros who have their physique on point, but they turn into church mice around women and they barely make $15/hr training people at the gym.

The old alpha/beta dichotomy is dead. Now guys want to know how to become the high-value man. Not only does being considered a high-value man sound less corny, it’s also free of ambiguity.

A lot of lists out there focus on subjective traits and feelings. Basically, they allow you to rationalize your way into being a high-value man. Not this list.

This list is objective. With this list, it’s not about how you feel or what people think. These are objective metrics that a man must hit to be considered the best version of himself.

A high-value male has hit an objective standard in these 4 areas otherwise. It doesn’t matter if you have high self-esteem, if you’re a nice guy, or swallowed the red pill; all that matters are is if you hit these metrics.

This article tells you the 4 unfakeable traits of a high value man.

Income above 6 figures for at least 3 consecutive years

Resources have always been one of the primary ways that humans keep score. As the old saying goes, “He who has the gold makes the rules.”

Anyone can be lucky and have a good year. There can be extenuating circumstances that cause one year to be better than the others. This is true, whether you’re paid on salary, commission, independent contract, or you’re a business owner.

The mark of a true high-value man is the ability to generate a 6 figure income consistently for at least 3 years in a room. If you can make at least $100k a year for at least 3 years, we’ve ruled out luck and anomaly.

Keeping your income this high over a period of 3 years indicates that you have actual skills and abilities that society values. Why is $100k the threshold of a high-value man?

According to various sources, it’s estimated that anywhere from 9-15% of individuals earn more than $100k/yr. Even if we assume that 70% of those are men (not an unlikely assumption), that leaves—at best—10% of men who earn 6 figures per year.

This means that if you’re able to get your skills and abilities up to earn that much per year, consistently, your contribution to society is at least in the top 10%. This means that you are a highly valuable man and that you are appropriately compensated for it.

Visible and verifiable

This doesn’t mean that a high-value man is famous.

This doesn’t mean that a high-value man is even well known.

It just means that if a guy’s named is dropped, two things must be possible:

  1. He exists on platforms other than his own social media and website.
  2. His titles, professional accolades, and accomplishments are verifiable by an independent body of qualified officials.

Anyone can say that they’re anything. They can even fabricate their own story through a series of pay-for-play journalistic pieces. What you want to look for are boards, organizations, or official record keepers of a man’s accomplishments.

If you tell me that you played a professional sport, there will surely be proof somewhere of your performance. I can easily type your name into Google and see types of press and mentions of you.

If you tell me that you run a marketing agency and I can’t find anything about you or your agency when I try to look you up, you’ve put me in a position of having to trust your word. I don’t know if you’re telling the truth or not, but part of being a high-value man is that people should not have to worry about that.

Strong network of other high-value men

No one becomes high-value on an island.

There are no “lone wolves’’. In fact, in nature the lone wolf is usually unfit to be part of the pack for some reason. It is not a badge of honor to be worn proudly.

High-value men are cosigned by other high-value men.

For this reason alone, it’s difficult to bluff that you’re a high-value man. Other high-value men have to vouch for you.

They don’t have to like you. In fact, if you’re in a competing field, they probably won’t like you. But if you’re a genuinely high-value guy, then they’ll respect you.

This doesn’t mean that a high-value man doesn’t have friends who don’t meet the high-value threshold. It just means that other people who are high-value recognize this man and consider him a peer.

Between this metric and verifiability, it’s nearly impossible for a man to fake his way into high-value status. If a man is a doctor, for example, then not only will you be able to look him up somewhere on a website, other doctors and health professionals will be able to vouch for him.

If he claims to be an entrepreneur, then not only must other successful businessmen vouch for him, but you should be able to find satisfied customers and consumers of his business.

High-value men are part of a network of with other high-value men.

Physical optimization

You don’t need to look like a fitness model or a pro-athlete.

You don’t need to be styled and dressed in the most expensive fashion.

Physical optimization just means that you take care of your health and grooming. Part of taking care of your health means that you are not overweight. This is non-negotiable.

If your bodyfat is higher than 18% and you don’t play on the offensive or defensive line of the NFL, then you need to lose body fat. There are a number of diets to help you do this. Pick one stick to it until you’re <18% body fat.

I don’t care how much money you’re worth and how busy you are; you can stick to a disciplined diet. While I don’t agree, I understand if a guy can’t make it to the gym. But you have to eat, so just eat something reasonable and do so with some restraint.

Find the haircut and facial hair style that looks best on you. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or expensive. It just needs to be something that looks well-kept. You can wear dreads or a crew cut. Whatever you do, keep it clean and styled.

This should go without saying, but part of being a high-value man is keeping yourself clean and groomed. You shouldn’t have dirt under your fingernails. You shouldn’t even have fingernails long enough to get dirt underneath them.

You definitely shouldn’t smell bad. Even if you just left the gym, there’s no reason to smell. You’ll be sweaty for sure, but you shouldn’t smell like you haven’t showered in days.

Basically, high-value men can’t be overweight, dress like a slob, or have “homeless hygiene.”

Summary of the 4 unfakeable traits of a high-value man

  1. Six-figure or higher income for at least 3 years
  2. Visible and verifiable
  3. Part of a network of other high-value men
  4. Physical optimization

This list weeds out the fakers and the wannabes that are low value men. Notice what it doesn’t mention. It doesn’t mention:

  • How easy it is for you to get laid. I know plenty of losers who settle for sex with low-quality women. High value men attract most women, but being high value isn’t a dating strategy. Your love life may improve as a result, but that’s only a side-effect; not the goal.
  • Anything about how well you lead men. There are many areas in life where one can stumble into a position of leadership.
  • Whether you’re alpha or beta. No matter what you think of those terms, I don’t think there’s any man who’d rather be a loser alpha than a high-value beta. And yes, there are plenty of loser alphas.
  • Your mindset. Being focused on self-improvement and trying to level up is nice, but we only deal in results. No one gives a damn about what’s going on in your head if it doesn’t have an effect on the physical world. If I can’t measure it, in this context, it doesn’t exist.

Now you know what makes a high-value man. The rest is up to you.


Ed Latimore, author, blogger, and retired pro boxer
Ed Latimore Author, retired boxer, self-improvement enthusiast

Further Reading

Do women care about money? 7 reasons the answer is yes
How to overcome fear of rejection and meet women
How to be the most interesting man in any room
Personal magnetism: How to be more charismatic