You gotta understand something if you ever wanna be something:
No one gives a shit about you.
This applies to everything you need or want. It applies to all the people in your life, including your parents and your family.
No One Cares What You Want
Your boss doesn’t give a shit if you come to work. He cares if you make his job more difficult because of your absence, but he doesn’t REALLY care what happens to you.
It’s not malicious. He’s just got his own shit to worry about. So he doesn’t give a shit about you.
That girl you want to date doesn’t care that you can’t get her off your mind. The flu isn’t out to get you. It just took an opportunity to do what it’s supposed to do. It doesn’t give shit about you.
People care about themselves and how a situation will increase what’s valuable to them. If you understand that sentence, you’ll never have a problem again.
It’s so important that I’ll write it again, phrased differently, and in bold letters. No one gives a shit about you unless there’s something in it for them.
(Read: “30 Lessons From 30 Years of Life”)
Before you talk about people who volunteer or do charity, reread the bold face. The good souls who donate their own time, money and energy are do it because it increases feelings they personally value.
It’s not so much they give a shit about you personally. They just enjoy the feelings they get from helping.
Maybe that feeling is warm and fuzzy. Maybe it’s acceptance by their God. Sometimes it’s relief from a tax write off. It’s all done out of self-interest. Your desires are secondary.
It’s the same with that girl you’re mentally undressing. She doesn’t give a shit that you think she’s sexy. That’s not gonna make her want to date you.
What’s in it for her? Are you good-looking? Are you interesting? Do you have money and status? What do you bring to the table that’s valuable to her?
If you want more from the world, you have to give more to the world. The world doesn’t owe you shit. No amount of sulking or protesting will ever change this.
You Can Have Whatever You Want… If You’re Willing to Pay The Price
Maybe the lifestyle you want is only possible with a job that requires selling ability. Go become a damn good salesman.
Maybe you want to be well connected to famous and powerful people. Well those people have a lot to offer so you better offer huge value in return.
If you want a sexy and intelligent girl, you better bring the body of Adonis with the mind of Einstein. Because here’s the second part of this dirty secret that no one tells you:
Whatever you want, you are getting it from an auction — not a department store.
Not everything in life is winner-take-all, but it’s best to go after it like it is. You have to compete for the good things in life because everyone wants them.
Competition raises your level so that you can take advantage of other favorable opportunities of a similar quality.
Maybe you don’t get that job, or that girl, or get into that school: but now you’re good enough to get into a comparable or better situation.
The money you want, the girls you like, the experiences you desire—they don’t give a shit about you. They give shit about what you bring to the table.
There’s no reason why you can’t have anything you want. All you have to do is be willing to pay the price.
The rest is up to you.