In the last post, I talked about the 4 key mindsets you need to have before you start thinking about a relationship. These are the mindsets a man should have when he’s dating anyway, but many men relinquish them when they get into a relationship and in the process become unattractive.
Part 2 is more specific to men looking to get into a relationship. This post is about screening for traits you find most desirable. While nothing I say is vulgar, disrespectful or mean, I’m warning you right now that this post has the possibility to make you angry.
Many people keep asking, “How does your relationship work with you being red pill?”, “What’s your secret to making your relationship work?” or some variation on those two questions. Basically, guys seem curious how I can have swallowed the red pill AND be in a committed lasting relationship.
This is from my experiences as a man in a relationship for 4 years that’s going well with no sign of ending soon. Even if I was somehow blindsided by a breakup, it wouldn’t discount anything I’m saying here. That’s because I’m not giving you techniques to make a relationship last forever—no one can do that. Instead, I’m telling you how to make sure that you are happy and fulfilled.
The most empowering belief you can have is that given enough time, you can learn anything. If you can't see an event objectively, there's no way to learn from it. This the most important step of the process.
You can’t take anything you observe personally. It’s all part of the cosmic game of the universe. Whether you like it or not, you’re playing so you might as well learn the rules.
So I'm still down to 9 fingers. I'll be this way for another week. Kyle Milligan was awesome enough to send me over a guest post to fill the time. His site info and bio is at the end, but he left out his twitter. You can follow him @all99kyle.
Kyle Milligan is a new adult fiction author and entrepreneurship blogger. His novels focus on the challenges of modern dating in the prominent hookup culture. Kyle’s books can be found at realkylemilligan.com. Kyle also blogs on the topics of entrepreneurship and fitness at all99life.com
So for the next 2 weeks, writing anything new is too frustrating to try. It's not because of some bullshit like writer's block. It's because of stitches. 10 to be exact. In my right index finger. A mug broke on my hand while I was applying pressure to wash it. Still, the show must go on.
In the meantime, I'm digging around old stuff I never posted or responses to emails where there are nuggets of knowledge. The following is a message I wrote to someone in response to a question about branding. I'm not a branding expert, but I've learned a lot. And there are others who know a lot more I directed him to. Reading over this, I think there are lessons so enjoy.