How To Be Yourself

Everyone wants to learn how to keep it real, how to be likeable, and how to be themselves. In this article, you’ll learn how to be authentic. In being authentic, you’ll learn how to be yourself.

By Ed Latimore Last modified

Everyone wants to learn how to keep it real, how to be likeable, and how to be themselves.

We all want people to think that we keep the same temperament about all things in life and that we don’t take any crap from anyone.

Maybe this is you..

If it is, then this article will just be a refresher on not caring what other people think.

If this sounds like a person you want to be like but you currently aren’t, then keep reading so you can learn how to:

  • Stand up for yourself
  • Stop being pushed around
  • Start living a life where you don’t give a fuck who likes you

In this article, you’ll learn how to be authentic.

In being authentic, you’ll stop seeking approval. When you stop seeking approval, you can finally be yourself.

When you finally learn how to be yourself, you’ll live in a constant of realness. Everyone will like you, even though you even be trying to get them to do so. This is the power of authenticity, and it’s the only way to live.

This is how to be yourself.

How To be LIkeable, The Easy Way

Never try too hard to make people like you.

In fact, it doesn’t matter if people like you or not.

Be your best self and you’ll attract the best people for you. This is the power of authenticity.

I’m not telling you to be an asshole, a slob, or to just “be yourself.” I’m telling you to make your own interests and goals the motivations for your actions.

Be selfish, don’t harm innocents, and leave the world a better place than you found it. It’s impossible to go wrong this way.

Don’t kiss ass, play dumb, or pretend to like something or be something you aren’t just for approval. On the flip side, don’t rebel, reject, or cast off something just to be different.

If you like something, cool. If you don’t like something, that’s cool too. It doesn’t matter how many people rock with you because you’re the only one who has to live your life.

Don’t like shit just to fit in or hate stuff just because everyone else doesn’t.

If you can just live true to your desires, as long as they don’t harm the innocent, you will also be a likeable and authentic person. 

The Best Way To Be Likeable Is To Be Yourself

When you live true to yourself, it’s impossible to be anything but yourself.

When you live like this, you’ll engage with everything with a distinct zeal and gusto that is impossible to fake. Even if people don’t care about what you do, you’ll talk about it in such a way that they can’t help but be interested.

When people are interested in your life, you become interesting.

When you become interesting, it’s easy to be yourself.

When you are easily being yourself, it’s easy to be likeable. 

If you aren’t excited to live, why should people be excited to be around you? We’re drawn to people who live life. We tolerate those content to simply survive.

You don’t try to be likable. You don’t try to be authentic. You don’t try to be authentic.

You are just yourself and no one else. 

Being likable and being yourself 

When you live authentically, you can always have fun.

Likability and charisma are the outcomes.

Authenticity and passionate living are the processes.

Outcomes are impossible to control.

Living passionately, in pursuit of a worthwhile goal, is a process. We can control the process.

Being Yourself Is The Power of Not Giving A Fuck

Great processes are more likely to produce great outcomes.

Try-hards focus on the outcome, repelling people in the process. Passionate people are too focused on their life mission to care if you like them. This makes people like them more.

Being focused on the process makes you likeable because you don’t care about being likable. Being focused on the outcome makes you disingenuous because you only care what people think of you.

You’ll “fake it ‘til you make it” but the only thing you’ll “make” is other people question if you’re real or fake.

This is why political correctness is such a drag.

It focuses on not offending other people.

It focuses on how people interpret your words.

Rather than express yourself accurately and honestly, it makes you worry too much about if people don’t like what you say.

It’s impossible to be politically correct and authentic.

This is why women like bad boys and assholes can be lovable. True bad boys don’t give a damn about how the woman feels. Bad boys act in their own best interest first.

They don’t intentionally drop “negs”.

(Read: “How To Become An Attractive Man”)

They live passionately, and people who live passionately are attractive.

Conversely, being offensive for its own sake is also repulsive. People can feel when something is an act or a defense mechanism. This is also why sarcasm is repulsive to anyone with an authentically strong personality.

Real not only recognizes real, but it also recognizes and repels fake.

Authenticity is so powerful because it is, by definition, impossible to fake.

A person must grow into the best version of themselves, but not change to appease the masses. How does one become their best self but not change? What allows a person to grow authentically?

How To Be Likeable

Focus on whatever sparks your passion.

Why it lights your fire is irrelevant. All that matters is that it does no harm. 

Ideally, your passions improve you and your environment. If you aren’t interested in making the world a better place, then the next best thing you can do is not make things worse.

It’s easy to become your best self when what you pursue aligns with your passion. 

The moment you begin to live for another’s desires is the moment you lose authenticity. This is the moment when many of us, in an attempt to be cooler and to fit in, lose the thing that gives us our edge.

I always tell people that I’m a more interesting and engaging person since I stopped drinking.

I get to live life on my own terms instead of the way most people expect me to. I can interact with people who drink and those who don’t because I’m always myself, engaged in life, and having fun.

(Read: “How To Have Fun And Socialize Sober”)

I stopped becoming a product of my environment, and instead, learned how to my environment a product of myself. Inauthentic people are products of their environment. 

The Polarity That Comes From Being Likable And Being Yourself

A sure sign that you are living an authentic life is polarity. 

People will rally against you or alongside you, but you no longer get to exist in the fog of the masses.

Whether they love or hate you, they will be envious of you because you go against the grain, stand for what you believe, and meet life on your own terms.

If you live this way now, you may not appreciate how much courage it takes to live outside the box, take risks, and essentially buck the system that wants us all to think the same.

If you want to “go against the grain”, I know that it looks scary. I know that it seems hard.

But you have to remember that “the grain” is nothing more than an illusion that is supported by your fears.

It’s the plan that your culture and society has had for you since your birth. It’s the one that you’re expected to follow without question. When you start to break free and do something different, there will be a reaction.

NPCs don't want you to be likable, authentic, or take risks.

The goal is to make you think and act just like everyone else. Resist.

If you live an authentic life where you’re truly yourself, then you will have admirers but you’ll also have haters. These haters will be people who are too afraid to take risks. Since they won’t take risks themselves, they are jealous of the ones who do.

Prepare yourself for this, but remember that these people are just paper tigers.

They’re grass eating lions.

Their bark is worse than their bite and at the end of the day, living an authentic life as your most likable self grants you a level of freedom that makes you immune to their whines. 

If you don’t have the balls to risk being hated, you don’t have the strength to receive love. If you can’t endure the consequences of living authentically, you don’t deserve the rewards that come with it either.

The best and worst things in life walk side by side. By avoiding one, you automatically forfeit the other. This is the life of the inauthentic.

The rest is up to you…

Get Your Life Together With The Essays of Power

I don’t know you, but I know you.

I know that you’re tired of feeling weak, being a victim, and having no control over the direction of your life.

I know you because I was once you.

I used to be stuck on the hedonistic treadmill of mediocrity. Always drunk, always broke, and always looking for the next piece of cheap entertainment and distraction.

Then one day, I changed my entire life around.

I took responsibility for my personal development and started living the best life I possibly could. I learned how to:

  • Live with purpose
  • Think with clarity 
  • Face the my demons
  • Fix my finances

Unlike a lot of other motivational gurus, I’ve been to the bottom and I clawed my way back out. It wasn’t easy and I wasn’t sure if I’d just become another statistic along the way, but I think I have made tremendous progress.

I learned the hard way, but I can break it down so you can learn it the easy way…

Get The Mind And Fist Essays Of Power
And next, read this: How To Stop Worrying What Other People Think Of You